Welcome to The Love Across Borders Membership

Support for Intercultural & Long Distance Couples Building a Life Together — Including Those Navigating the UK Partner Visa Journey

Navigating a long distance relationship across cultures can feel overwhelming — especially when you’re preparing to build a life together in the UK.

From communication challenges and cultural differences to the emotional strain of the UK partner visa journey, this season can feel heavy, uncertain and isolating.

The Love Across Borders Membership is a supportive community and structured space designed specifically for intercultural and long distance couples. It brings together lived experience, practical preparation tools and ongoing encouragement — so you feel clearer, calmer and less alone.

This is not legal advice.

It’s honest insight from a couple who have walked this journey themselves.

You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone

If you’re:

• Refreshing government websites late at night

• Feeling tension caused by cultural misunderstandings

• Struggling with distance and time zones

• Overthinking every document in the visa process

• Wondering if you’re “doing this right”

You’re not failing.

You’re just in a season that requires support.

And that’s exactly why this membership exists.

What Couples Are Saying…

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    Sara

    “Laura was exceptional. I could not have completed the visa process without her. She is very understanding and knows exactly what needs to be done. She went above and beyond to support me—not just with the practical side of things, but emotionally as well.

    Laura is an incredible person who knows exactly what needs to be done. We had our visa approved within a month of starting the whole process. We followed all of Laura’s advice as she had been through what I was going through, so I trusted her with everything.

    I strongly recommend Laura and would encourage anyone to read every bit of information she provides in her membership, as it gives a clear understanding of how the process works, along with her incredible support—which is a huge bonus 

    Thank you so much, Laura. We couldn’t have done it without you. Some people wait for years to be together, and within months we are now together forever. This is all because of your endless emotional and practical support.”

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    Claire

    “I found Laura on TikTok when she went to first visit dammy and I was soooo invested as I was in a LDR for 9 years and wasn’t as brave as Laura to travel the other side of the world alone but we fight for LOVE don’t we In 2023 I reached out to Laura as I was going through visa applications with my now husband.

    Laura gave me soo much advice that really helped my case things I didn’t see coming but because of Laura I was prepared. It’s a very scary lonely time going through all that and no one should have to go through it just to be with your world your everything but sadly we have to fight for the best. I felt lonely to start then Laura replied to my messages on fb and I felt all the weight come off my shoulders because from then I knew I had a great support and with someone who’s done it so knows exactly how I was feeling and from then on it went smoothly and I got my wish I can’t thank Laura and dammy enough for there continued support”

  • Toyha

    “I received exceptional help and guidance from Laura throughout my visa application process. She supported me every step of the way right up until my visa was approved, and honestly I couldn’t have done it without her. I was initially planning to use a solicitor, but after finding Laura and benefiting from her lived experience and knowledge of the process, my visa was approved first time. She made what can be a very stressful and confusing process feel much more manageable.

    Laura was also a huge emotional support during such an anxious and frustrating time, always reassuring and patient whenever I needed it. I’m incredibly grateful for her support and would highly recommend her to anyone navigating the visa process.”

Why This Membership Is Different

There are forums.
There are scattered articles.
There are legal websites full of complex terminology.

But inside this membership, you get:

• Guidance from lived experience — not anonymous threads

• Structured clarity instead of endless Google searches

• Emotional reassurance alongside practical preparation

• A safe community instead of navigating alone

We’ve lived the long distance season.
We’ve navigated intercultural challenges.
We’ve walked through the UK fiancé and spouse visa process ourselves.

And we built the space we wish we’d had.

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What You’ll Find Inside

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    Relationship & Intercultural Support

    Guidance for navigating love across distance, culture, and real life.

    You’ll find:

    - Our lived experience: how we met, first visits, surviving long distance
    - Navigating cultural differences vs red flags
    - Adjusting to life together after long distance
    - Staying emotionally connected when miles apart
    - Life after arrival in the UK
    - Finding work, settling in, and rebuilding routine

    This section is about connection, understanding, and emotional safety — not perfection.

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    Visa & Practical Guidance

    Clear, calm information — without the panic.

    Inside you’ll find:

    - UK visit visa guidance
    - Nigeria visit visa guidance
    - UK fiancée visa (requirements + lived experience)
    - UK spouse visa guidance
    - Fiancée vs spouse: how to choose the right route
    - FLR (M): what to expect after fiancée or spouse visas
    - FLR (FP): understanding your options when children are involved
    - Fee waivers explained
    - Common visa mistakes (and how to avoid them)
    - Step-by-step checklists for different routes
    - A “how to use the visa section” page so you don’t feel lost

    This is designed to reduce overwhelm, not add to it.

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    Community, Mentoring & Ongoing Support

    Because information alone isn’t enough.

    Membership includes:

    - Group mentoring sessions (live + pre-recorded)
    - Emotional support for long-distance relationships
    - Space to submit questions anonymously
    - Guidance through difficult seasons — not just the happy ones
    - A community of people who get it

    You don’t need to speak if you don’t want to.
    You’re welcome to just listen, learn, and feel less alone.

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    Coming Soon Inside the Membership

    What We’re Building Next

    This membership will continue to grow alongside the community inside it.
    Over the next 6-12 months, we’ll be adding more ways to support you practically, emotionally, and through real connection including connecting with others at similar stages, visa updates and changes, and expanded guides and relationship conversations.

What Changes When You Join

Couples often join feeling:
• Overwhelmed
• Anxious about the visa process
• Frustrated by cultural misunderstandings
• Emotionally drained from distance

Over time, they begin to feel:
• Clearer about next steps
• More organised and confident
• Less alone
• More united in their relationship
• Equipped to handle challenges together

Love across borders is possible — but it’s easier when you’re supported.

Ready To Join?

Join the Dammy & Laura Membership

Start where you are. Take what you need. Go at your pace.

The Dammy & Laura Membership
£9.99
Every month

✓ Relationship & Intercultural Support
✓ Visa & Practical Guidance and Tips
✓ Life After Arrival Support
✓ Group Mentoring & Ongoing Support
✓ Downloadable Guides & Resources

No long-term commitment.

Cancel anytime.

Quick FAQ’s

  • This membership is for you if you’re in a long-distance relationship, an intercultural relationship, or navigating UK visas — and you want clear information, emotional reassurance, and guidance from lived experience.

    Some members are just starting out.
    Some are deep into the visa process.
    Some are already living together and adjusting to real life.

    You don’t need to be at a specific “stage” to belong here.

  • No.

    This membership is not legal advice and does not replace a qualified immigration solicitor.

    Everything shared here is based on:

    • our lived experience

    • research over several years

    • information gathered through supporting others

    • shared learning within the community

    Nothing here guarantees visa approval.

    The goal is to empower you with knowledge, so you can avoid common mistakes, understand your options, and feel confident — whether you apply yourself or use a solicitor.

  • Absolutely — and we would recommend doing so if after reading the information within the membership, you feel like you’re situation is more complicated.

    Many members join because they want to:

    • understand the process before paying a solicitor

    • spot misinformation or contradictions

    • ask better questions

    • feel less overwhelmed

    This membership is about knowledge and clarity, not replacing professional services.

  • No.

    Many people join while:

    • still long distance

    • still deciding which visa route is right

    • saving money

    • emotional support

    • intercultural guidance

    • or simply trying to understand what lies ahead

    This space supports the whole journey.

  • No — and that’s really important.

    Visas are part of the journey, but so are:

    • long distance strain

    • intercultural misunderstandings

    • loneliness

    • pressure from family

    • adjusting to life together

    • emotional ups and downs

    This membership supports the relationship as well as the process.

  • Group mentoring is gentle and supportive, not forced or intense.

    • You can listen quietly

    • You don’t need to be on camera

    • You don’t have to speak

    • Questions can be submitted in advance

    • Sessions are guided and structured

    • All sessions can be watched at a time that suits you.

    It’s there if and when you need it.

  • Yes.

    The membership is £9.99 per month and you can cancel whenever you choose.

    No long-term commitment, no pressure.

  • We cannot currently offer individual advice and support, but we can look at how we can create future guides and structure webinars to help support you.

  • That’s actually very common.

    UK immigration and intercultural relationships rarely fit into neat boxes.

    This membership is designed to help you understand your situation, even when it feels messy or unclear.

    You’re not expected to have everything figured out.

  • Because the information, guidance, and emotional labour here take real time and care to create and maintain.

    People regularly:

    • spend hundreds or thousands on weak applications

    • receive conflicting advice

    • feel completely alone during the process

    This membership exists to:

    • reduce mistakes

    • reduce overwhelm

    • and help people feel supported and informed


    £9.99 a month gives you ongoing access to everything inside.

  • No. While our experience is British–Nigerian, the guidance applies to many intercultural and long-distance relationships, and we have helped many all over the world.

  • Yes. Many members join for emotional support, adjustment, and practical guidance after arrival.

  • There is a lot of information, however everything is broken down into sections and made clear without all the fancy jargon.

    The membership is designed to help you slow things down, not overload you.

    You don’t need to read everything at once.

    You can move at your own pace.

    There’s guidance on where to start and how to use each section.

    You’re allowed to take this one step at a time.

  • That fear is very real — and very common.

    This space was created because so many people feel:

    • anxious

    • unsure

    • isolated

    • afraid of making a mistake

    You don’t have to navigate this alone.

  • If you’re reading this and thinking

    “I just want clarity, reassurance, and someone who understands”

    — then you’re exactly who this membership was built for.

A Note From Us

We built this membership because we were once the people searching for answers late at night.

Confused. Overwhelmed. Second-guessing everything.

Trying to be strong while quietly struggling.

If this space gives you clarity, comfort, or even just the feeling of “okay… I’m not crazy” — then it’s done its job.

You don’t have to do this alone anymore.

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What this space is not

This is not:

  • Legal advice

  • A replacement for immigration solicitors

  • A loud or judgemental forum

  • A space that tells you what you should do

It is:

  • Supportive

  • Calm

  • Honest

  • Experience-led

  • Designed to help you think clearly and move forward confidently

“One day we will never have to say goodbye. Only goodnight.”

— Dammy & Laura